On Relationships

Today I had coffee with a friend and we chatted a bit about our husbands, the stuff we love about them and the stuff that drives us nuts, it was a good release and a chance to laugh at ourselves.

Marriage or any relationship is never easy it has its ups and downs and twists and turns. Don't for a second think this was a "bitch" session, it was two women talking through stuff. At the end of our chat my friend thanked me for giving her a new perspective, and since we usually give others the advice we need, I was helped too.

Years ago I heard that it is the qualities you love in a man when you first meet or start dating, that will later drive you nuts. This popped into my head during my coffee chat and I found myself laughing on the way home at just how true this statement is.

There is stuff of course you can't blog about and I am so very careful never to write anything that would embarrass my husband, I have been married twice and had a long term relationship from High School into my mid twenties... I have been in a relationship since I was 18.

So I thought it would be fun to take the things I liked about these men when we first met and translate them into the things that eventually drove me nuts. I want it to be clearly understood that this is done in fun as in the end I know that the problem is always with me and not them.

So here goes.

What I liked What drove me nuts

He was high energy and fun He woke up like the Ever Ready bunny and never slowed down, I wanted to pull his battery out

He was great in bed All he ever wanted was sex

He was neat He drove me nuts about being neat, he talked about it c constantly, nagged me daily.

He was charming He was charming other women behind my back

He was a great talker He talked non stop and dominated every conversation

He bought me great gifts These gifts were tied into his guilt over the other women

He was handsome He knew it and was always trying to get me to improve my appearance.

He was a hard worker He worked constantly and I never saw him

He wasn't as neat as the last guy He is so messy

He was fun at Parties He drank too much and the party never seemed to end

This list is in no way meant to beat up on these men they were great guys who I loved and still remember with great fondness, I just find it hilarious that the very things that attracted me to them were the very things that became so frustrating.

I know that there were many things about me that drove them nuts and I hope that they can have a good laugh about these things and think of me as fondly as I think of them. These men were some of my greatest teachers they held up the looking glass of life and forced me to look at who I really was. I will be forever grateful for the time they shared with me and the amazing memories of love that we shared.

I was told recently by a psychic that I would have one more love in my life and that it would be the greatest love of all. I find that hard to believe because I experienced great love in all these relationships. If someone gave me the chance to go into my past and choose differently I would still choose these men because they have been a part of forming who I am today and today I am very happy.